At some point, most children will walk into the room and say those two words that make parents pause: “I’m bored.” It might come during school holidays, a rainy weekend, or even five minutes after a playdate ends.
But boredom isn’t always a bad thing—it can actually be an opportunity. Instead of seeing it as a problem to fix right away, let’s look at what “I’m bored” could really mean and how to respond in a way that helps your child grow.
What’s Behind the Boredom?
When your child says they’re bored, they might actually be:
- Looking for connection – maybe they just want time with you
- Feeling overwhelmed – not sure what to choose or where to start
- Wanting entertainment – used to being busy or stimulated all the time
- In need of rest – they could be tired, hungry, or emotionally flat
Why Boredom Can Be Good
Boredom encourages children to:
- Be creative – It’s often the starting point for imaginary games and new ideas
- Learn independence – They begin to discover how to entertain themselves
- Problem-solve – Figuring out what to do builds important thinking skills
- Slow down – In a busy world, boredom gives space to reset
Tips to Respond When They Say, “I’m Bored”
Pause before offering a list of things to do. Say something like, “That’s okay—sometimes being bored helps our brain find something new to try.”
Don’t Jump In Right Away!
Create a ‘Boredom Jar’
Fill a jar with simple activity ideas your child has helped come up with—drawing, building a fort, reading, dancing, or going on a treasure hunt in the garden.
Rotate Toys and Materials
Too many options can be overwhelming. Pack some things away and bring them out later to feel fresh again.
Encourage Pretend Play
Boredom is a great time for dress-up, building with boxes, or setting up a pretend shop or school.
Give Them a Challenge
“Can you build a tower taller than your shoes?” or “Draw a creature no one’s ever seen before.” Fun, simple tasks can re-spark their focus.
Let Them Be
It’s okay for kids to feel bored sometimes. Letting them sit with it a little often leads to self-made fun.
A Final Thought
Boredom isn’t a failure—it’s a doorway to curiosity, creativity, and independence. When your child says they’re bored, it’s not your job to fill every moment. Instead, it’s a chance to guide them towards discovering how to fill it themselves.
By shifting how we respond, we help children build the skills they need to think, play, and grow—even when there’s “nothing to do.”
